So this week I decided to write about something that is happening very soon.. I’m getting married!! I’ve been a single lady since my daughter was 1 years-old, and I unexpectedly met my future husband 4 years ago this month in Las Vegas. I really wasn’t expecting anything, in fact I was at the point in my life where I had the single mom gig figured out and felt empowered, I didn’t need a man I thought. Then in walks C. We met at a nightclub and talked all night until I almost missed my flight home to Texas. (I was living in Austin at the time)
C swept me and my daughter D off our feet. We spent months in the beginning traveling back in forth from Austin to NYC until we finally decided we needed more, we needed to be together, physically. What a hard decision. D’s biological dad lives in Dallas, along with the rest of our family. So picking her up and moving to a new state and city was not an easy thing to do. But at the same time, how could I not pursue this relationship, a man who had my respect and love, and took to D immediately as a father figure. It really is like they say, when you know, you know..
Four years later, he put a ring on it, and we are getting married in less than 3 weeks!! To kiss my single days goodbye I traveled to Las Vegas, the place that has given me a lifetime a happiness, with one destined encounter.
I have to admit, I felt some guilt leaving D and C in NYC to spend 4 days partying with friends. C basically said I was crazy and to go, they’d be fine. D wasn’t as easy to console, she cried a day before I left telling me how much she loves me and misses me.. and I better drink lots of water and get sleep.. lol. Great mom I am right?
Vegas was amazingggggg. My girls really did it up. I learned that it is much harder to recover from partying in your 30s and that yes, I can still drop it like its hot! Pool parties in the day, nightclubs, guys bought us drinks.. (yes I still got it!) I also rode a mechanical bull, I went there lol.. I really had the time of my life. 
Monday I had to call out of work, not because I was hung over, but because I was so damn tired from flying and being at airports trying to get home. I take a night class on Mondays which I had to make because we had a major presentation this week. As I drove to class I had time to reflect on what I’ve gained in life.
I have the relationship all single moms dream of. I found a man who treats me like a queen, undeservingly some days. He’s the father my daughter deserves. (apparently while I was gone it was like all the daddy watching kids movies from the 90s, insert Big Daddy but with a little girl) We don’t always get along, we don’t always agree, he STILL doesn’t know how to load a dishwasher right (plates and pans on bottom, cups on top.. how hard is that to remember???) But my husband with a heart of gold and a soul full of compassion. He is my best friend, and I know our marriage won’t fail because he is in it. (Kind of getting inspired to write my vows lol)
If there is any advice I would give to a single mom who is fed up with men, never settle. I spent 4 years searching for the perfect man, and when I stopped looking there he was. Know your worth, otherwise you run the risk of letting men who don’t walk all over you. And when I say never settle, that goes for your kids. No man could have my heart, unless they won D’s first. She deserves the best just as I do. And I am one of the lucky ones to have found that special someone.
